Towards a Global Ethic: An Initial Declaration

If we are seeking to use the law of attraction in a spiritual way then perhaps it helps if we know some moral and ethical guidelines to follow in helping us do so.  That is why I am posting this Global Ethic Declaration put together by spiritual leaders from all spiritual traditions who were part of the Parliment of World’s Religions.  I hope you take the time to read it.  http://www.urbandharma.org/pdf/ethic.pdf

Musings on Moving Beyond the Ego’s Use of the Law of Attraction

While doing research on my newest book (the follow up to my Beyond the Secret book), I was reviewing some of my favorite texts from various spiritual teachers I admire. I was particularly struck by what I read in Wayne Teasdale’s THE MYSTIC HEART about some of the ideas of Thomas Keating’s writings on “the false self.”

To summarize, Teasdale shares how in our early years if we do not get what we need in the way of security, love, and a feeling of mastery and control over our environment, we will compensate for it in the following ways:

1) Not enough of security as a child — compensating with an over-emphasis on material prosperity.

2) Not enough love as a child — seeking out the approval of others (even pursuing fame to do so).

3) Not enough control as a child — attempts to dominate others at work, in the family, and everywhere!

GOODNESS! No wonder so many people stress using the law of attraction to get money, approval, and as a means to control their environments. How riddled they must be with feelings of fear, believing inside they are fundamentally unlovable, and that they are out of control in this world and need to compensate for it all by using the law of attraction to find ways to be totally in control. And, maybe this is why research showed a few years ago that despite how prosperous American’s were they scored very high on the unhappiness scale. How sad, because it means that essentially we have way too many children (both young and inside the bodies of adults still) who feel insecure, unloved, and out of control.

This said, perhaps the antidote to using the law of attraction in a more spiritual (versus egotistical way) is to show people how to feel inwardly secure (which comes about by knowing how to wisely intuit and rely upon the Divine), loved for who they are (no matter what the outer appearance of their lives), and using surrender (and my formula of Surrender-Align-Contribute) so they no longer feel the need to control and give it over more to the Divine flow!

Well, I guess that is what the spiritual quest is all about really. Learning how to heal the wounds of our childhood to help us overcome the ego and live in the light, love, joy, and freedom of the Divine!

Blessings as you pursue yours!

Lisa

Are THE SECRET authors Catching Up to ideas in my BEYOND THE SECRET book?

More and more I am both amused and pleased that well-known authors of THE SECRET are finally catching up to ideas I put forward well over a year ago in my <b>BEYOND THE SECRET: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction</b> book. 

In that book I talked about how to use the law of attraction from the level of the ego and how to use it in a more spiritual way.  I stated that instead of going by the mantra ASK, BELIEVE, RECEIVE popularized so much in THE SECRET book and DVD, we needed to shift to SURRENDER, ALIGN, AND CONTRIBUTE.

Now, here is a public question for all of you.  Though I am pleased that they are catching up to ideas in my book, I am curious as to why they have decided to use my title (which has been out for well over a year) on their campaign instead of coming up with one of their own?  Strange.  I would think they had the power to be more innovative. 

Well, regardless, I am glad some of them are starting to either express their own more spiritual points of view that they probably felt anyway before THE SECRET came out about how to use the law of attraction in a more spiritual way.  Or, they are coming around to things I said in my book anyway.  At least it is good news that others in that crowd are expressing their spiritual views more freely or are catching up.

It’s just really amusing that they are using the title and ideas from my book.  Whatever that’s about.  Imitation can be a form of flattery so I will accept the compliment in a joyful way!  Smile!  And, hope that is all that is going on here.

Oh, well.  Surrendering to the flow of what Spirit wants in this process, while posing the questions regardless.

Blessings,

Dr. Lisa Love

Under Pressure Lately? Become a Diamond Soul! Thrive Not Survive!

BE A THRIVER NOT A SURVIVOR – HERE’S THE DIFFERENCE

As a SURVIVOR you will waste time on:

• obsessing about the past instead of learning from it
  
• “woulda, coulda, shoulda’s”
  
• misdirected and unhealthy anger
  
• depressed and stagnated emotions
  
• stuffed grief and attachments to what has been lost
  
• comparing themselves to others
  
• problems instead of solutions
  
• self-pity, blame, and toxic shame
  
• fearful thoughts that immobilize them instead of kick them into action
  

As a THRIVOR you will:

• Learn from the past and move “future forward“
  
• Take responsibility where you can and let the rest go
  
• Use healthy anger to get motivated, set boundaries, and make
  healthy choices that improve your self-esteem and self-respect
  
• Move through the grief and loss process in a nurturing way
  
• Build a team of support to help you move through
  
• Set long term intentions and focus on short term daily goals
  
• Turn anxiety into action and have achievable action steps
  
• Focus on the end you want to achieve and use effective strategies to
  help you reach their goals.
  
• Be guided by a set of principles (spiritual and otherwise) that direct
  your life along healthy, happy, and prosperous lines
  

Knowing all this isn’t it time you thrive and utilize your present circumstances
to help you attract to yourself a greater level of health, happiness, prosperity,
and joy?  Wouldn’t it be great to learn from someone who has been there
too and made it through?   

That’s right, I have thrived and you can too!

(READ MY DIAMOND SOUL STORY HERE!!)

Making the Most of It

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You play the hand you’re dealt. I think the game’s worthwhile. ~ Christopher Reeve

Dr. Lisa Love Coaching Tip

What I love most about the above quote is it’s source.  I became a huge fan of Christopher Reeve’s true superhuman capacity, when he became a quadriplegic and  despite the horrible tragedy he went through, he truly played the hand he was dealt with spectacular love and strength.  Now, I know as much as the next person what it is like to want to indulge in my own pity party and lament the hand I have at times been dealt.  I’m not going to pretend that tough times don’t require their own level of sorting through some emotional turbulence before you arrive at the point of thinking the game you are now forced to play is worthwhile.  So feel sad, mad, confused, afraid, jealous even!  Feel your emotions because they are frequently cards in the hand you’ve been played.  Then, get busy learning how to process these emotions well so you can set those cards down and draw some new one’s like: faith, hope, optimism, courage, dignity, wisdom, clarity, and even love.  That’s the premise behind my Thrive Not Survive book.  Learning to handle these emotional states well.  Why?  So, you can keep playing those cards well enough to eventually pull off enough of a winning hand to realize that the game of self-discovery and learning to love yourself and others is in fact the only worthwhile game in town.

 

About Dr. Lisa Love

Best-selling author of BEYOND THE SECRET: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction, Attracting Real Love, and Thrive Not Survive!.  Life, Relationship, Law of Attraction coach. There’s a reason my clients tell me by working with me they get major breakthroughs fast!  Decades of coaching and counseling experience combined with my extensive training and work with clients from all backgrounds help my clients make shifts in a rapid way.  Discover what I can do for you.  Call now!   Plus, visit my website at www.doctorlisalove.com to get a variety of free gifts I offer to you! 

Cultivating Joy

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Joy increases as you give it, and diminishes as you try to keep it for yourself. In giving it, you will accumulate a deposit of joy greater than you ever believed possible. ~ Norman Vincent Peale

Dr. Lisa Love Coaching Tip

Have you ever noticed there is a difference between joy and happines?  I have, which is why I believe happiness is an emotion and joy is not.  Think about it.  We say people feel happy and unhappy, but we don’t say people are joyful and unjoyful.  In fact, the word unjoyful doesn’t exist.  What’s going on here?   I think it means joy comes  totally from a spiritual place.  Joy is rooted in the soul and its focus on service and giving. Joy orients you towards understanding the needs of others, lifting you out of your own discontent, misery, or unhappiness as you do so. Joy reminds you that no matter what the outer circumstances of your life there is someone who needs you and someone who is very grateful that you are here.  So, give joy this week to others.  Give a smile, a hug, an encouraging word.  Give of your time, energy, money, and especially give them your love.  Others need you.  You are here for a purpose.  Give joy, and notice how in giving it you naturally experience joy in return.

 

About Dr. Lisa Love

Best-selling author of BEYOND THE SECRET: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction, Attracting Real Love, and Thrive Not Survive!.  Life, Relationship, Law of Attraction coach. There’s a reason my clients tell me by working with me they get major breakthroughs fast!  Decades of coaching and counseling experience combined with my extensive training and work with clients from all backgrounds help my clients make shifts in a rapid way.  Discover what I can do for you.  Call now!   Plus, visit my website at www.doctorlisalove.com to get a variety of free gifts I offer to you! 

Setting Yourself Up for Greatness

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It is the nature of man to rise to greatness if greatness is expected of him. ~ John Steinbeck

Dr. Lisa Love Coaching Tip

Here’s something to pray for at this time of year, something as a Law of Attraction coach I would absolutely delight in if you attracted this to you.  Start right now to attract people into your life who really see the greatness in you.  After all, why would you want anything else?  Sure, as a counselor I understand.  Maybe you have had a lifetime of having people in your life who doubted, discouraged, and diminished who you really are and the glorious contribution you are here to make in life.  I understand.  Believe me, despite all my talents I’ve been through this.  Plenty of people attempted to keep me down.  The only way out of this dilemma was for me to constantly believe in myself enough to attract into my life people who believed in me as well.  And, here is the fun part.  The more I do this, the better I feel.  And, the better I am able to discern who genuinely encourages my success and who does not.  Isn’t it way past time for you to have this in your own life?  Affirm daily then how more and more people are seeing and expecting greatness out of you.  I for one, will too!

 

About Dr. Lisa Love

Best-selling author of BEYOND THE SECRET: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction, Attracting Real Love, and Thrive Not Survive!.  Life, Relationship, Law of Attraction coach. There’s a reason my clients tell me by working with me they get major breakthroughs fast!  Decades of coaching and counseling experience combined with my extensive training and work with clients from all backgrounds help my clients make shifts in a rapid way.  Discover what I can do for you.  Call now!   Plus, visit my website at www.doctorlisalove.com to get a variety of free gifts I offer to you! 

Say, Not Just Pray, Your Gratitude

Silent gratitude isn’t much use to anyone. ~ Gladys Browyn Stern

It’s absolutely wonderful to give thanks.  And, here is a wonderful way to  share your gratitude with others.  It’s a ritual I’ve had for years right around this time of year (coinciding with the USA holiday of Thanksgiving).  Sit down and make up a list of all the people who did something wonderful for you this past year — big or small.  Then, pick up the phone or take out a thank you card and share it with the person who you owe gratitude too.  Of course, you can also go high tech with an Email or Ecard (though I believe the personal touch is better).  And, if you can go ahead and share your gratitude in person.  You might be pleasantly surprised how people respond to you, especially if several months had passed. Plus, it feels so good to not only pray your gratitude, but say your gratitude.  Just try it.  Others will be grateful too!

To your success!

Dr. Lisa Love

About Dr. Lisa Love

Best-selling author of BEYOND THE SECRET: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction, Attracting Real Love, and Thrive Not Survive!.  Life, Relationship, Law of Attraction coach. There’s a reason my clients tell me by working with me they get major breakthroughs fast!  Decades of coaching and counseling experience combined with my extensive training and work with clients from all backgrounds help my clients make shifts in a rapid way.  Discover what I can do for you.  Call now!   Plus, Email me about a variety of free gifts I can offer to you!  Go to: www.doctorlisalove.com

Laugh, Smile, and More!

I have a good, hearty laugh and an energetic handshake, and those are trump cards. ~ Albert Camus

Joy is infectious.  Especially when someone combines their joy with radiant energy it is natural to be attracted to that person.  Though I don’t recommend that people over-ride their real feelings with fake one’s, I do encourage people to be mindful of how their moods impact themselves and others.  That’s why setting the intention to be joyful and energetic can actually lead you into a joyful and energetic mood.  Here are some ways to do so!  First, smile!  Yep, just smile.  Exaggerate your smile if you need to, especially just before you enter a room where other people may be relying on you to be in an up mood.  Next, practice a good hearty laugh by saying to yourself when alone, “Ha, ha, ha.  Ha, ha, ha.  Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha.”  Sure it will sound fake.  And, you may even feel pretty stupid.  But, that very same feeling of “this is silly” may actually put you into a silly mood where your fake attempt at a hearty laugh becomes very real.  Then there is this one. Yell out loud, ‘Yahoo!”  Do this as you leap out of bed (especially if you are worried you will have a lousy day).  Do it in your car, just before you enter work or your home, or if you can pull it off in front of a group of people.  Of course people will wonder what you are up to.  But, you may actually get them laughing in a hearty way with you.  And, for a time your worries may melt away bringing you that much more energy in your life and lifting your overall mood.  

 

To your success!

Dr. Lisa Love

 

About Dr. Lisa Love

Best-selling author of BEYOND THE SECRET: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction, Attracting Real Love, and Thrive Not Survive!.  Life, Relationship, Law of Attraction coach. There’s a reason my clients tell me by working with me they get major breakthroughs fast!  Decades of coaching and counseling experience combined with my extensive training and work with clients from all backgrounds help my clients make shifts in a rapid way.  Discover what I can do for you.  Call now!   Plus, Email me about a variety of free gifts I can offer to you!   Go to: www.doctorlisalove.com

 

 

 

Ending a Relationship? Here’s Help

Struggling with the end of a relationship? It doesn’t have to be that painful. There are ways to minimize the impact by learning healthy ways to let go and move on. This also ensures that you are more likely to build the foundation for an even healthier and happier relationship next time around.

Face it!  None of us like to go through a rejection or a breakup of a relationship that held so much promise and potential.  Especially around the holiday season, facing a breakup can be difficult causing you to feel even more alone.  But, does it have to be this way?  You may wonder, how can it not?  We are human after all.  True, but in my own life and in my work with clients, I have a number of tips that can help minimize the impact.  First, let yourself go through a period of celebration regarding everything that was good about the relationship.  If need be write all those memories down.  These good memories will brighten your mood, guaranteed.  Second, know that anything that was unfulfilling about the relationship is now passing away.  Take the time you need to to grieve it and let it go.  Third, approach the ending of any relationship as a chance to be open to experiencing something new.  Look forward to continuing all the positive experiences you experienced in the old relationship, as you create new ones.  Keep your thoughts on a positive level so you can attract even more good in your life. Fourth, take some time to assess how you were in this relationship.  What were the qualities you offered that were outstanding and loving?  How can you carry the good stuff forward into your next relationship?  What qualities were devitalizing or detrimental?  What do you need to do to become a better person and partner so you don’t continue to bring these elements into relationships in your future?  Finally, remember that when it comes to rejection, no one has the power to reject you if you don’t reject yourself!  Be there for yourself when any relationship ends.  After all, the most important relationship you will ever have is  with the person called, “You!”  Be a good friend to yourself.  Surround yourself with loving people.  Expand your support group.  Move deeper into your spiritual practice.  Trust the process.  You will get through.  

To your success!

Dr. Lisa Love

 

About Dr. Lisa Love

Best-selling author of BEYOND THE SECRET: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction, Attracting Real Love, and Thrive Not Survive!.  Life, Relationship, Law of Attraction coach. There’s a reason my clients tell me by working with me they get major breakthroughs fast!  Decades of coaching and counseling experience combined with my extensive training and work with clients from all backgrounds help my clients make shifts in a rapid way.  Discover what I can do for you.  Call now!   Plus, Email me about a variety of free gifts I can offer to you!   Go to:  www.doctorlisalove.com