Henry is an ordinary boy living an ordinary life until one day at age six a tragic event totally changes his life. In a car with his mother, a marvelous singer who is busy teaching Henry how to do the same, a tragic accident suddenly takes his mother away. And, in many ways, Henry is taken away as well. In response to the trauma of seeing his mother die, Henry becomes a time traveler. Randomly, throughout the next forty years of his life he leaps through time, primarily to interact with the various stages
of the life of his one great love, Claire.

On the surface time travel seems absurd. Yet, if we really look at it millions of people are time traveling every single day. Trauma victims are especially susceptible to doing this. Whenever something triggers a memory of their trauma, they simply disappear. Perhaps they disappear mentally causing them to lose track of the present moment as they drift into the past. Never fully at home, the loved ones around them are frequently left to inquire as to where they are going, since though they may be right in front of them, no one seems at home.

Or, they may disappear into various addictive behaviors. Sex, drugs, alcohol and other addictive “medications” are typical choices used to help time travelers avoid the present moment. That’s because they would rather numb out memories of the past, then face them head on. Then, there are those who disappear entirely. They simply run away from those they love, only to appear and disappear over and over again at the most inexplicable times. Some on the run do take their loved ones with them, unwittingly causing the suffering of those they love, who struggle to cope with the constant feeling
of being uprooted and having to abandon too many times the people and places they are coming to care for and enjoy.

Watched carefully it is easy to see how Henry’s constant disappearances are triggered by feelings of anxiety, fear, and memories of past pain. His greatest fear and pain is of course the loss of someone he loves. Perhaps that is why he constantly tests Claire to see, if like his mother, she will one day abandon him. Fortunately, for Henry, Claire chooses to remain a constant part of his life. But, to do so without becoming a “time traveler” herself (through escapist behaviors), she has to learn a significant lesson. She faces her traumas and losses head on. And, in doing so, she does not abandon herself.  An example of this happens when Henry returns to her after disappearing for over two weeks. Bravely, Claire refuses to cancel her plans to spend time with him. She has learned something Henry never fully seems to comprehend, to fully love another, you have to love yourself. Unlike Henry, she refuses to put the present moment on hold.

Wiser on matters of the heart and no longer codependent, Claire lives as she must.  She is no longer worried if Henry will go on the run. He has run away too many times already. So, when Henry insists that Claire refrain from having children and attempts to manipulate time to stop her from doing so, she manages to make her dream come true anyhow. Living life, not running from life, is Claire’s major priority now.

In that way, the Time Traveler’s Wife, is a love story. Though it is Claire (and later her daughter) who are the main ones who really know how to love. Henry is too chained to his early trauma, and to fear, to let much of their love enter his life. Though Henry goes to a geneticist to fix his condition, what he really needs is a good trauma therapist. In many ways that is the role his daughter attempts to take on. She too suffers loss, even the tragic and sudden loss of someone she loves. Yet, she copes in a different way. Though young, she deals with her traumas head on, processing her emotions surrounding her traumas in a more conscious and loving manner.

That’s why when Henry asks her how he can learn, as she has, to travel consciously throughout time, she tells him to sing. Why sing? Because his mother was teaching him to sing at the very moment she died triggering Henry’s trauma in the first place. Sadly, Henry let’s his fear and trauma dominate him to the very end. Though he is learning more about love, he is unable to love himself, his wife, or his daughter enough to work through his trauma in a conscious way, so he no longer feels compelled to run away.

But, as I have already said, Henry is not the only time traveler. They are all around us. Let’s pray then that with enough love and courage we can help them all live more fully in the present moment. Then, they will finally find their way back to themselves, their hearts, their homes, and those who love them.

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Blessings,

Dr. Lisa Love

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The Time Traveler's Wife

Is it really possible, or practical, to forgive and forget if someone is only going to repeat abusive and harmful behaviors? It is, but it requires a little more clarity on the entire process of boundary setting in conjunction with forgiveness.

In the past several years I have become even more savvy on the dynamics of abuse. I have also become aware of how abusers pretty much count on people forgiving them and forgetting about the harm they cause as a way to escape from the consequences of their destructive behaviors.

Which is why I want to draw upon the Christian teachings I was raised on. Because to me Jesus is a major example of forgiveness. Yet, when Jesus famously forgave those around him, at one point he also proclaimed, “Go and sin no more.” In other words, all of us, when we are given the blessing of forgiveness, have at the same time a responsibility to become more conscious of our destructive patterns. And, once aware of them, we need to actively move to change our behaviors so we sin (or harm ourselves and others) no more.

What about forgetting then? Though I have no idea what the roots are of the words forgiving and forgetting, it has not passed by me that the words can easily be broken into “for – giving” and “for – getting.” Looked at this way I can almost imagine acient folks looking at two people who have harmed each other, and then telling them to both step into the center of the room for the purpose of “giving” and “getting.” Or, to put it more simply for the sake of apologizing and making restitution with each other so the scales of justice (or karma) are set right.

Yet, sadly forgiving and forgetting has often turned into, “Ok, I’ll be a nice person and let you off the hook entirely. You don’t have to get conscious. You don’t have to change your behaviors. I’ll just let the whole thing go. And, you can go on being hurtful like you were before.” Quite frankly this is the fundamental reason why abusive relationships continue. Abusive people never have to suffer any consequences for their destructive behaviors. And, their forgiving spouses (who continue to ignore the abuse) end up getting hurt again and again and again.

So, what is the better way to forgive? First, it is true, when you don’t forgive you remain stuck in the past. Your thoughts spin negative. You are not able to create a more positive future for yourself. In many respects you continue the abuse cycle. Only this time instead of the other person harming you, you are harming yourself. That is why forgiveness primarily helps YOU. It helps you let go, move on, and move forward in your life free from the negative impact of the person who wounded you in the first place.

But, it is also true that forgiveness requires being able to stand in a place of spiritual power. As Jesus conveyed, now that the other person has been given a second chance, they now have a responsibility with that chance to become a better person. I am reminded of the famous play and film Les Miserables, which is a major story of forgiveness. In this tale Jean val jon steals silver from the home of the priest and is caught. Though the priest could have easily sent Jean val Jon back to the labor camps, he did not. Instead, he forgave Jean val jon. But, in forgiving him he also requested what he now wanted from Jean val jon (which was the priest’s way of saying what he would be “getting” in return). He said, “With this silver I have bought your soul for God.” Meaning he now held Jean val jon responsible for waking up, setting things right, and becoming a better human being from now on. Thank God, Jean val jon did.

As I see it then real forgiveness requires a great deal of spiritual power and spiritual perspective. To get to this point you do need to use forgiveness to heal enough to embrace more your own value and dignity as a human being. Letting go of your pain will help you get there, which is why forgiveness is a tool that mostly helps you. Once healed and free from the wounds of the past as a powerful and dignified human being, you then have the responsibility to learn about how to better protect yourself from such hurtful behavior. Then, you need to develop the capacity to set boundaries so you prevent that person from wounding you anymore. And, if you can manage it, you can even learn to develop enough spiritual power that with dignity and grace you are able to convey to the person who has harmed you, that in being forgiven, they have a responsibilty to wake up and become a better person.

With these steps everyone gives, everyone gets, and balance is restored for the good of all.

Blessings,

Dr. Lisa Love

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The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong. — Ghandi

Kerplunk Game

Dear Friend,

If times are tough right now and you are going through fear, loss, sorrow, frustration, confusion, disappointment, desperation, anger, or more…

…. then I know I can help you. My name is Dr. Lisa Love and after decades of living through both good times and bad I know intimately that the number one thing that will help you get through is knowing how to heal and shift your emotions so they no longer stop you from moving forward in a powerful and successful way.

Consider this!  It’s a childhood game called Kerplunk that best illustrates why this program is so important for helping you recover from any difficult situation you are in.

Marbles = Thoughts
Pickup Sticks = Emotions
Tray Bottom = Actions Following Through

Now, the goal of the game is to get the marbles down through the chute to the bottom. Or, to get our thoughts into actions we follow through on. At times, however, our limiting beliefs prevent us from even putting the marbles into the tube. So, we never get started. But, if even we do get started and put our positive beliefs and thoughts (the marbles) into the tube, they can still get blocked. Why?

Because the pickup sticks represent all our unhealed emotions that sabotage our ability to follow through or act in the right way, despite all our positive thinking and good intentions. That’s why emotions are considered “the power factor of manifestation.” They e-mote us, or move us, into the direction we need to go to attract what we need to for a better life, or not!

The name of the game, then, isn’t just positive thinking it’s positive feeling! So, how do you get your feelings working at the highest state so they can aid you? Here’s how!

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Priorities: Hundreds of years from now, it will not matter what my bank account was, the sort of house I lived in, or the kind of car I drove... but the world may be different, because I did something so bazzingly crazy that my ruins became a tourist attraction - Despair.com

Who could have imagined it? After what had amounted to decades of spiritual training, teaching, service, rigorous meditation practice, being a vegetarian, running for free one of the largest spirituality ecology, personal growth, alternative healing sites on the Internet, reading well over a thousand books (mostly on spirituality, self-help, and psychology), being trained by some incredible teachers, going through a number of intense mystical experiences (some even lasted non-stop for weeks), and earning a number of spiritual, transpersonal, psychological degrees, I of all people would want to take a break and go on what I called my “spiritual sabbatical.” Why?

Spiritual burn-out! Yes, I am a recovering spiritual addict.

Yep. It was time for me to acknowledge something similar to the title of a person’s book I really admire, Jack Kornfield. The name of the book? After the Ecstasy, The Laundry.

Or, maybe we could put it this way… After the Ecstasy.. I was…

* needing to focus more on finances.
* discovering what it was like to be a mother.
* learning the real nitty gritty lessons of relationships.
* finding out that sometimes “gurls (guru and girl combined) just want to have fun!”
* cleaning up in that washing machine the especially crusty stuff still sticking to me from my childhood.
* deciding at times it was better to sleep and zone out instead of meditate (and easier too!)
* learning as I went “beyond ananda” (like Swami Beyondananda — the comic alter ego of a friend of mine Steve Bhaerman), that sometimes you just have to say no matter how many realizations you have…”Heck if I know!”
* and so many more valuable lessons of being a human being, and not just a spiritual one.

So, why am I sharing this with you? Because there is something really incredible and different having gone through all of this in my new approach to spiritual work. And, it is based on the recognition that there is never really anything that exists outside of spiritual practice. It is all “grist for the mill.” Relaxing into this has brought a softness, humor, and ease into the whole process that too often did not exist in my life before. Plus, it is bringing a peaceful compassionate awareness regarding who I am (ultimately as the I AM, or One with all that is), and who I am (as the flawed but fantastic little speck of consciousness incarnate in a person named Lisa Love).

What then, was my spiritual sabbatical about and why do I feel it is over now? I think it was about taking a break from the intensity of a process and a practice that may at times have made me a bit too much. And, why do I now feel that sabbatical is over? Because as I ease back into a more rigorous practice I do so with a greater lightness in my approach. I don’t take it so seriously any more, though my intentions to practice again at a deeper and fuller level are still in place.

My hope for you then, is to be gentle as well as stern with yourself, and in balancing the two you find your own middle way. Then, you can even find ecstasy in the laundry, because you will enjoy learning about what is being sifted away, and what is emerging clean and fresh. Living more in the flow, instead of addicted to control, your spiritual practice will embrace more of everythng around you and within you with compassion and love.

Blessings,

Dr. Lisa Love

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“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill

DR. LISA LOVE REFLECTIONS

In a recent radio interview featuring me and my SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad book, the interviewer ended the call enthusiastically proclaiming to his world-wide audience that a lot of well-known authors on his site were teaching people how to succeed, but no one he had ever spoken with had taught anything like I had about how to fail. Let me tell you what he meant by those words.

To begin with how many times have you tried something and failed in your life? Once, twice, twenty times, a hundred times or more? If so, what keeps you going? What keeps you motivated to keep on trying?

Chances are you will only move forward IF…

You have a spiritual practice or spiritual values that guide uplift and guide you.
You believe in what you are trying to do and move forward no matter what.

And, you will only move forward IF…

You know how to master the four levels of mind and the six emotions!

Why is this so important? Because to succeed you have to keep on stay inspired (mind level one), have a practical plan for success (mind level two), keep motivated (mind level three), and have a proper sense of timing (mind level four). And, you need to know how to rise above fear, sorrow, anger, jealousy, confusion, and even a false sense of naive optimism (or happiness) to move forward. Then, and only then, will you maintain the wisdom, optimism, enthusiasm, and joy to keep believing, adjusting, learning, growing, and moving forward into eventual success.

Yes. It’s true! I want to teach you how to fail, especially in such a way, your seeming failure results in a bounce that catapults you forward in ways you have not experienced before. And, I do so by giving you dozens of practical insights, techniques, and exercises in my Soul Success book so you can finally learn how to bounce in the way you are meant to.

And, I’ve made reading my SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad book totally risk free for you, by letting you review it for 7 days before buying the book. But, I know you will keep this book, which is why I am offering you a number of bonus gift including the Meditation Flow music CD from the group Sancorpe, discount coupons for my workshops and services, my free Meditation: The Path to Peace ebook, and more!

I know I can help you BOUNCE and more forward, either through my Ebook or coaching sessions. Need more information? Feel free to give me a call. 858-356-8359.

Blessings,

Dr. Lisa Love

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Check out my NEW BOOK: SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad Buy the book and receive bonus gifts at my website.

Best-selling author of BEYOND THE SECRET: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction. She is also a Life, Relationship, Law of Attraction, and Tranformational coach. There’s a reason my clients tell me by working with me they get major breakthroughs fast! Decades of coaching and counseling experience combined with my extensive training and work with clients from all backgrounds help my clients make shifts in a rapid way. Contact me to discover what I can do for you.

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The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers — M. Scott Peck

DR. LISA LOVE REFLECTIONS

If you haven’t guessed it already, I’m someone who has spent a lot of her life attempting to figure things out and find out the answers. And, yet one of my most enlightening human experience moments happened when I had to finally admit there were no answers. I just simply had to admit, “It is what it is!”

Now, that might be easy for you to do, but as someone with five (nearly six) college degrees who has dedicated a good deal of her life to figuring people out, it wasn’t at first that easy for me. But, at one point I was finally confused and stumped enough I finally let go and came out on the other side of my confusion happy and whole.

True, there are some things you can solve in life. And, sometimes as my SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad book shares with you you can use techniques to help you finally get the answers. Though I believe in those techniques and still use them when necessary I want to share another approach (also shared in my Soul Success) book that has more to do with accepting uncertaintly and embracing the unknown.

How do I know this? Because sometimes what keeps us confused is attempting to force an answer along. Sometimes a solution arrives in its own time. Just like a cake. The result can’t manifest until all the right ingredients are in place, the heat has been turned up just right, and enough time has passed for the answer to cook itself into our now prepared minds, hearts, and souls. That’s what hindsight is all about. Somewhere down the road when we least expect it the answer finally appears. Now, we know.

Unless your answer is something like mine was. After years of trying to figure something out I had to finally confess, “I can’t fix it. It’s too broke.” Then, my confusion was able to shift into a different emotion — sorrow. And, I was able to approach what I was dealing with at a different level. I was able to grieve not having the answer, let go, and move on.

That’s the main thing I want to share with you today that there are different ways to work your confusion through. And, if you want more help along these lines order my SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad book that reveals the the nine levels of confusion and shares a variety of in-depth methods you can use to shift your confusion from it’s unhealthy, to average, to healthy levels. And, as you do so you will finally free up the energy locked up in your confusion and move forward.

As I have shared before my Soul Success book also helps you master five other emotional states, four levels of mind, and reveals how to move through difficult situations in life in a soulful and successful way. And, I’ve made reading my SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad book totally risk free for you, by letting you review it for 7 days before paying anything more than a minor processing fee amount. So, find out more here and discover the many other bonus gifts that await you including the Meditation Flow music CD from the group Sancorpe, discount coupons for my workshops and services, my free Meditation: The Path to Peace ebook, and more!

After all it’s time to set yourself free from confusion and experience peace ing your mind and joy in your heart, whether you know the answers, or not!

Blessings,

Dr. Lisa Love

Dr. Lisa Love Website

Copyright © 2009 by Lisa Love. All Rights Reserved.

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Check out my NEW BOOK: SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad Buy the book and receive bonus gifts at my website.

Best-selling author of BEYOND THE SECRET: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction. She is also a Life, Relationship, Law of Attraction, and Tranformational coach. There’s a reason my clients tell me by working with me they get major breakthroughs fast! Decades of coaching and counseling experience combined with my extensive training and work with clients from all backgrounds help my clients make shifts in a rapid way. Contact me to discover what I can do for you.

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Anyone can become angry — that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way, this is not easy — Aristotle

DR. LISA LOVE REFLECTIONS

Feeling upset about something? Not sure what to do with your anger and frustration? I know what you feel like because in my life I have had more than enough things happen to feel angry about.

And, at times life just doesn’t seem fair. But, as I used to tell the Los Angeles inner city gang kids I worked with, “The only place I know of where the fair is in Southern California is in the cities of Del Mar and Pomona.”

Like them I wish it was different because it seems like life should be fair! And, from a naive spiritual level I used to act as if life would be fair. How shocked I was to find out that often it is not. And, how angry I felt. Though I tried hard not to show my anger, since I was raised to believe that anger wasn’t really that good for you.

In fact, anger used in the wrong way, at the wrong time, towards the wrong person isn’t good at all. There is even plenty of research to show that it impacts your immune system, hormonal system, and heart in some pretty negative ways.

So, how can anger possibly be good for you? The key is to catch your anger soon enough where it exists at a very subtle level. That’s what my book SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad teaches as it reveals nine levels of anger that go from unhealthy, to average, to healthy displays. At the healthy level you are able to realize very quickly that you are angry. Because your anger is very subtle some level of calm exists despite the irritation or frustration you feel. This relative calm helps you keep your mind engaged allowing you to reason through your anger in a healthy and effective way. Once you do this you are then better equipped to defuse your anger before people even think of you as angry. Or, to express your anger in a calm and healthy way so people understand how you feel and may be motivated to make a positive change regarding what you are angry about.

When you work with anger in this more healthy way you are not exploding your anger, stuffing your anger, or pretending you are not angry at all. These approaches are far more likely to result in one of the devasting displays of anger I speak about in my book. No, I’m talking about extracting the gifts from your anger, gifts my SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad book reveals to you that causes other people to respect and love you more, not less, when you have handled your anger with them well.

That’s why it is so important to learn to handle your anger in a positive and constructive way. And, my book SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad teaches you this as well as how to master five other emotional states, four levels of mind, and gives techniques for moving through difficult situations in life in a soulful and successful way. If you want to know more click on the SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad link and there you will discover more about the many other bonus gifts that await you including the Meditation Flow music CD from the group Sancorpe, discount coupons for my workshops and services, my free Meditation: The Path to Peace ebook, and more!

After all it is possible to use anger in a healthy, healing, compassionate and firm way. A way that makes your life and the lives around you better. Not worse.

Blessings,

Dr. Lisa Love

Dr. Lisa Love Website

Copyright © 2009 by Lisa Love. All Rights Reserved.

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Check out my NEW BOOK: SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad Buy the book and receive bonus gifts at my website.

Best-selling author of BEYOND THE SECRET: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction. She is also a Life, Relationship, Law of Attraction, and Tranformational coach. There’s a reason my clients tell me by working with me they get major breakthroughs fast! Decades of coaching and counseling experience combined with my extensive training and work with clients from all backgrounds help my clients make shifts in a rapid way. Contact me to discover what I can do for you.

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