It’s a natural response to want someone there to care for you when trauma happens in your life. In an ideal world we are all loved and cared for and our needs are all met. This is less than an ideal world, however, and in life we need to learn how to act when there is seemingly no one there to rescue us. We do this by building in the inner strength necessary to move on with life and still be happy when we need to. Here is how.
If you have ever seen the movie Castaway with Tom Hanks you already know the basic story line. Tom Hanks plays a man driven to get ahead in life often neglecting the people that matter most to him in the process. Then, something happens. His plane crashes in the middle of nowhere. He survives, washed up on a small island, with various odds and ends from the cargo ship washed up with him. At first, he responds as many of us tend to in a crisis. After the initial shock we reach out for help. If we are lucky, someone hears our cries and comes to the rescue. If we are not so fortunate, like the Tom Hanks’ character we go through a period of disorientation. We realize no one is coming to save us, but we don’t yet know how to save ourselves. This leaves us confused and helpless for a time.
After being in this space for a day, a month, a year or more, we finally reach a point where we come to terms with the reality of our new life. Like Tom Hanks character, we adapt. Even though it is not the life we want, we make the best of things. Some of our adaptations may look a bit strange (like when Tom Hanks makes a best friend out of a soccer ball that has a face created from Tom’s bloody hand hitting it). These adaptations may help us survive for a time. In fact, many of us are living our lives this way. Yes, we have made lemonade out of lemons, but what happens if in truth, lemonade is not what you want at all? What then? What now?
Eventually, the few and courageous wake up. Like Tom Hanks’ character you begin to say, “What am I doing living this kind of life?” For Tom it meant finding a way off the island. This meant creating a make shift craft that could take him out onto the ocean and head, who knows where? Home, hopefully. Figuring out how to build the raft is a challenge of skill and intelligence. Risking everything to head out to the ocean is more an act of desperation and/or courage. (Sometimes it is hard to tell the difference). Surviving and making it home is nothing less than an act of absolute faith and trust in the realm of Spirit to take you where it will.
So what does this have to do with your life? Simple. The Castaway movie reflects the stages of your own life when ever you are faced with a crisis. What stage are you in now? The phase of shock and disbelief that something major has happened? The stage of running around looking for someone to rescue you? The period of adapting to unpleasant circumstances by just trying to make do? Or the moment when you finally decide, enough already, and really (I mean REALLY) decide to change your life. No matter what it takes you want a way out. You want to be at choice again to live the life you want. This means setting up an intention to change, creating a plan for change, having the will to change, and moving forward with faith that your life will be better and different.
And finally the good news. You see the truth is, even when you feel you are all alone and there is no one there to help you, there is plenty of help. The help comes first and foremost through Spirit. It can also come from friends and even strangers if you really know how to reach out. A Life Coach such as myself can help you as well. Yet no help will ever come to you until YOU decide you want your life to change and YOU are willing to make it different. Then, all things do become possible. Just believe again. Then listen to that inner voice and let it guide you. When you get to the other side of where you really want to be, I for one, will rejoice for you.
To your success!
Dr. Lisa Love
About Dr. Lisa Love
Best-selling author of BEYOND THE SECRET: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction, Attracting Real Love, and Thrive Not Survive!. Life, Relationship, Law of Attraction coach. There’s a reason my clients tell me by working with me they get major breakthroughs fast! Decades of coaching and counseling experience combined with my extensive training and work with clients from all backgrounds help my clients make shifts in a rapid way. Discover what I can do for you. Call now! Plus, Email me about a variety of free gifts I can offer to you! Go to www.doctorlisalove.com