Why REAL Love Goes Beyond Falling In and Out of Love

May 24, 2009
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You’ll discover that real love is millions of miles past falling in love with anyone or anything. When you make that one effort to feel compassion instead of blame or self-blame, the heart opens again and continues opening ~ Sara Paddison

DR. LISA LOVE REFLECTIONS

Once upon a time a client of mine totally fell “in love” with a man who offered her much of what she wanted in life. As the relationship progressed she continued to be excited about the many connections and possibilities between them. But, all along something seemed a little off. “Do you think he is secretly married?” she had asked me. After all he would disappear for days and even weeks on end on mysterious travel trips. “Possibly,” I told her, but as we explored it together we discover this was most likely not the case. “What could it be then?” she wondered. “Is it just what he says about liking to travel a lot and not being able to take me with him?” “Doubtful,” I told her and at last we figured it out. He had a sexual addiction. My client was devasted and swung from being wildly “in love” to woefully “out of love” with this man. At least, that’s what she believed. I believed it was something different.

You see, I have a strange bias that love requires 20-20 vision. And, only when we see people clearly for who they really are can we really learn to love them. Loving people in a real way isn’t always easy. At times it can be very hard work. So, instead of nashing her teeth about “falling out of love” with her man, I encouraged her to discover how she could actually learn to love him. How does she do this? Well, not by going back into the darkness, denying his problems, and trying to overlook them so she can “work everything out.” That’s not love, that’s ignorance motivated by fear of loss and rejection. It also doesn’t help if she rages at him dumping all her hurt on him for having had her hopes and expectations for their relationship dashed to pieces. That can produce a temporary feel good, but it will end up making them both feel a lot worse.

What she can do then is open her heart, have compassion, and lovingly set up boundaries between them giving them space to sort things out. And, in that space she can take some time to use the power of love (which is the same in my opinion as consciousness) to wake up and learn. One of the first things she can learn is how an overwhelming number of sex addicts (as high as 80% or more) have been sexually abused and exploited as children. Plus, in our now overwhelmingly sexualized society, this percentage is growing and causing an epidemic of dsyfunction seriously hindering people’s ability to expeirence truly loving relationship. For more information on this read this excellent article, Sex Addiction Has Devastating Effects.

As she wakes up and get education, my client can can then take one of two paths. First, she can let go of this man in love — in real love — feeling a depth of compassion for his plight and praying that some day he will find his way out. In doing so, she has surrounded him with love enabling that love at some level (even if only energetically) to reach him. Second, if he is willing to stick it out with her and if she feels she has the strength to continue she can enter into counseling with him, insist he enter a Sexual Addiction Recovery program and they can build upon their love together.

The point is real love when we practice it does take us a million miles further. It wakes us up. It helps us to become conscious. It heals us. And, most of all it turns us into increasingly loving individuals. We neither fall in love, or out of love. We grow in love. Let’s grow in love — together.

Blessings,

Dr. Lisa Love

Dr. Lisa Love Website

Copyright © 2009 by Lisa Love. All Rights Reserved.

About Dr. Lisa Love

Check out my NEW BOOK: SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad Buy the book and receive bonus gifts at my website.

Best-selling author of BEYOND THE SECRET: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction. She is also a Life, Relationship, Law of Attraction, and Tranformational coach. There’s a reason my clients tell me by working with me they get major breakthroughs fast! Decades of coaching and counseling experience combined with my extensive training and work with clients from all backgrounds help my clients make shifts in a rapid way. Contact me to discover what I can do for you.

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What Inner Success REALLY Means and How to Achieve It!

May 19, 2009
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“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill

DR. LISA LOVE REFLECTIONS

In a recent radio interview featuring me and my SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad book, the interviewer ended the call enthusiastically proclaiming to his world-wide audience that a lot of well-known authors on his site were teaching people how to succeed, but no one he had ever spoken with had taught anything like I had about how to fail. Let me tell you what he meant by those words.

To begin with how many times have you tried something and failed in your life? Once, twice, twenty times, a hundred times or more? If so, what keeps you going? What keeps you motivated to keep on trying?

Chances are you will only move forward IF…

You have a spiritual practice or spiritual values that guide uplift and guide you.
You believe in what you are trying to do and move forward no matter what.

And, you will only move forward IF…

You know how to master the four levels of mind and the six emotions!

Why is this so important? Because to succeed you have to keep on stay inspired (mind level one), have a practical plan for success (mind level two), keep motivated (mind level three), and have a proper sense of timing (mind level four). And, you need to know how to rise above fear, sorrow, anger, jealousy, confusion, and even a false sense of naive optimism (or happiness) to move forward. Then, and only then, will you maintain the wisdom, optimism, enthusiasm, and joy to keep believing, adjusting, learning, growing, and moving forward into eventual success.

Yes. It’s true! I want to teach you how to fail, especially in such a way, your seeming failure results in a bounce that catapults you forward in ways you have not experienced before. And, I do so by giving you dozens of practical insights, techniques, and exercises in my Soul Success book so you can finally learn how to bounce in the way you are meant to.

And, I’ve made reading my SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad book totally risk free for you, by letting you review it for 7 days before buying the book. But, I know you will keep this book, which is why I am offering you a number of bonus gift including the Meditation Flow music CD from the group Sancorpe, discount coupons for my workshops and services, my free Meditation: The Path to Peace ebook, and more!

I know I can help you BOUNCE and more forward, either through my Ebook or coaching sessions. Need more information? Feel free to give me a call. 858-356-8359.

Blessings,

Dr. Lisa Love

Dr. Lisa Love Website

Copyright © 2009 by Lisa Love. All Rights Reserved.

About Dr. Lisa Love

Check out my NEW BOOK: SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad Buy the book and receive bonus gifts at my website.

Best-selling author of BEYOND THE SECRET: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction. She is also a Life, Relationship, Law of Attraction, and Tranformational coach. There’s a reason my clients tell me by working with me they get major breakthroughs fast! Decades of coaching and counseling experience combined with my extensive training and work with clients from all backgrounds help my clients make shifts in a rapid way. Contact me to discover what I can do for you.

FREE GIFTS ON MY WEBSITE: Go to: http://www.doctorlisalove.com/freegifts.html


How to Turn Your Confusion Into Clarity & Get Motivated Again

May 14, 2009

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The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers — M. Scott Peck

DR. LISA LOVE REFLECTIONS

If you haven’t guessed it already, I’m someone who has spent a lot of her life attempting to figure things out and find out the answers. And, yet one of my most enlightening human experience moments happened when I had to finally admit there were no answers. I just simply had to admit, “It is what it is!”

Now, that might be easy for you to do, but as someone with five (nearly six) college degrees who has dedicated a good deal of her life to figuring people out, it wasn’t at first that easy for me. But, at one point I was finally confused and stumped enough I finally let go and came out on the other side of my confusion happy and whole.

True, there are some things you can solve in life. And, sometimes as my SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad book shares with you you can use techniques to help you finally get the answers. Though I believe in those techniques and still use them when necessary I want to share another approach (also shared in my Soul Success) book that has more to do with accepting uncertaintly and embracing the unknown.

How do I know this? Because sometimes what keeps us confused is attempting to force an answer along. Sometimes a solution arrives in its own time. Just like a cake. The result can’t manifest until all the right ingredients are in place, the heat has been turned up just right, and enough time has passed for the answer to cook itself into our now prepared minds, hearts, and souls. That’s what hindsight is all about. Somewhere down the road when we least expect it the answer finally appears. Now, we know.

Unless your answer is something like mine was. After years of trying to figure something out I had to finally confess, “I can’t fix it. It’s too broke.” Then, my confusion was able to shift into a different emotion — sorrow. And, I was able to approach what I was dealing with at a different level. I was able to grieve not having the answer, let go, and move on.

That’s the main thing I want to share with you today that there are different ways to work your confusion through. And, if you want more help along these lines order my SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad book that reveals the the nine levels of confusion and shares a variety of in-depth methods you can use to shift your confusion from it’s unhealthy, to average, to healthy levels. And, as you do so you will finally free up the energy locked up in your confusion and move forward.

As I have shared before my Soul Success book also helps you master five other emotional states, four levels of mind, and reveals how to move through difficult situations in life in a soulful and successful way. And, I’ve made reading my SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad book totally risk free for you, by letting you review it for 7 days before paying anything more than a minor processing fee amount. So, find out more here and discover the many other bonus gifts that await you including the Meditation Flow music CD from the group Sancorpe, discount coupons for my workshops and services, my free Meditation: The Path to Peace ebook, and more!

After all it’s time to set yourself free from confusion and experience peace ing your mind and joy in your heart, whether you know the answers, or not!

Blessings,

Dr. Lisa Love

Dr. Lisa Love Website

Copyright © 2009 by Lisa Love. All Rights Reserved.

About Dr. Lisa Love

Check out my NEW BOOK: SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad Buy the book and receive bonus gifts at my website.

Best-selling author of BEYOND THE SECRET: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction. She is also a Life, Relationship, Law of Attraction, and Tranformational coach. There’s a reason my clients tell me by working with me they get major breakthroughs fast! Decades of coaching and counseling experience combined with my extensive training and work with clients from all backgrounds help my clients make shifts in a rapid way. Contact me to discover what I can do for you.

FREE GIFTS ON MY WEBSITE: Go to: http://www.doctorlisalove.com/freegifts.html


Let Anger Motivate You in the Right Way to Change Things for the Better

May 11, 2009

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Anyone can become angry — that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way, this is not easy — Aristotle

DR. LISA LOVE REFLECTIONS

Feeling upset about something? Not sure what to do with your anger and frustration? I know what you feel like because in my life I have had more than enough things happen to feel angry about.

And, at times life just doesn’t seem fair. But, as I used to tell the Los Angeles inner city gang kids I worked with, “The only place I know of where the fair is in Southern California is in the cities of Del Mar and Pomona.”

Like them I wish it was different because it seems like life should be fair! And, from a naive spiritual level I used to act as if life would be fair. How shocked I was to find out that often it is not. And, how angry I felt. Though I tried hard not to show my anger, since I was raised to believe that anger wasn’t really that good for you.

In fact, anger used in the wrong way, at the wrong time, towards the wrong person isn’t good at all. There is even plenty of research to show that it impacts your immune system, hormonal system, and heart in some pretty negative ways.

So, how can anger possibly be good for you? The key is to catch your anger soon enough where it exists at a very subtle level. That’s what my book SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad teaches as it reveals nine levels of anger that go from unhealthy, to average, to healthy displays. At the healthy level you are able to realize very quickly that you are angry. Because your anger is very subtle some level of calm exists despite the irritation or frustration you feel. This relative calm helps you keep your mind engaged allowing you to reason through your anger in a healthy and effective way. Once you do this you are then better equipped to defuse your anger before people even think of you as angry. Or, to express your anger in a calm and healthy way so people understand how you feel and may be motivated to make a positive change regarding what you are angry about.

When you work with anger in this more healthy way you are not exploding your anger, stuffing your anger, or pretending you are not angry at all. These approaches are far more likely to result in one of the devasting displays of anger I speak about in my book. No, I’m talking about extracting the gifts from your anger, gifts my SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad book reveals to you that causes other people to respect and love you more, not less, when you have handled your anger with them well.

That’s why it is so important to learn to handle your anger in a positive and constructive way. And, my book SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad teaches you this as well as how to master five other emotional states, four levels of mind, and gives techniques for moving through difficult situations in life in a soulful and successful way. If you want to know more click on the SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad link and there you will discover more about the many other bonus gifts that await you including the Meditation Flow music CD from the group Sancorpe, discount coupons for my workshops and services, my free Meditation: The Path to Peace ebook, and more!

After all it is possible to use anger in a healthy, healing, compassionate and firm way. A way that makes your life and the lives around you better. Not worse.

Blessings,

Dr. Lisa Love

Dr. Lisa Love Website

Copyright © 2009 by Lisa Love. All Rights Reserved.

About Dr. Lisa Love

Check out my NEW BOOK: SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad Buy the book and receive bonus gifts at my website.

Best-selling author of BEYOND THE SECRET: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction. She is also a Life, Relationship, Law of Attraction, and Tranformational coach. There’s a reason my clients tell me by working with me they get major breakthroughs fast! Decades of coaching and counseling experience combined with my extensive training and work with clients from all backgrounds help my clients make shifts in a rapid way. Contact me to discover what I can do for you.

FREE GIFTS ON MY WEBSITE: Go to: http://www.doctorlisalove.com/freegifts.html


Soul Success – Introductory Chapter Excerpt

May 9, 2009

Have you ever wanted to know how to live a great life whether events went the way you intended them to or not? Have you ever wondered how you could feel full of joy even when life seemed to be sending you down a difficult road? Wouldn’t it be great to live a rewarding life no matter what? Or, recapture the wonder, confidence, and enthusiasm you had as a child?

The truth is you can, though not by changing the outer circumstances of your life, though that may help. Rather, a true and lasting transformation will happen only as you change how you relate to yourself, the people, and the world around you. In short, change has to take place from the inside out. Not in some haphazard quick fix way, but by undergoing an amazing and profound transformation that will give you a totally new way of living in the world so you can feel joyful no matter what events are happening around you or to you.

In fact, I believe today millions (if not billions) of people around the world are in the midst of such a transformation. Why? Because the chaos of outer events is forcing such an inner transformation to take place. And, if it doesn’t, it might lead to the destruction of the entire human race. If it does, then as a human family we may finally discover what it truly means to be a success in life. We will learn to live by a definition of success that brings us back to living according to values that acknowledge our common humanity, cherish our Earth, and create an atmosphere that is prosperous and joyful for all.

Unlike before in human history, however, this transformational change cannot, and will not, occur though governments, religions, or other organizations imposing a set of rules on us of how to behave. It will only happen when the souls of human beings awaken to an understanding of how to master of our thoughts and feelings in such a way we can attract and create a new and better world that is beneficial to everyone, and not only ourselves.

But, this kind of transformation will require a deep shift in the interior part of our lives. Because if we attempt to fix only the exterior (in terms of money, security, status) without making an interior shift it will be more of the “same-o, same-o.” What does the “same-o” entail? Mostly the same old habit of attracting a notion of success based only on externals (like getting a package with shiny and pretty wrapping paper), without carefully paying attention to what the inside of the box really has to offer us. Though these externals may excite us at first, as we have seen with the economic meltdown due to the housing bubble burst, once the box is opened it may either be empty or reveal a mess inside that we now have to contend with whether we want to or not.

No more! It’s time for a revolution — a revolution of the heart and spirit. It’s time to put the horse (or soul) before the cart (or ego) so you can make a change and attract a life filled with love, peace, hope, and joy to you no matter what the externals look. Isn’t that what we all want? To enjoy and love our lives no matter what? Well, this book will help you. Because once you understand what soul success vs. ego success looks like, and learn to attract a “soul success story” into your life you will be a success and feel like a success no matter what occurs to you.

And, you will learn this through the clear and practical steps that this book is filled with that help you master your thoughts and feelings and direct them along spiritual lines. Failing to move through these steps in a spiritual way means despite any external display of outer success you will still feel like a failure inside. Feeling like a failure you may even blow up your external successes and possibly resort to addictive and destructive behaviors. But, as a soul success you will be a success no matter what, and shift your thoughts and feelings in such a way you will never lose touch with the source of love, peace, hope, and joy in your life ever again.

Blessings,

Dr. Lisa Love

Dr. Lisa Love Website

Copyright © 2009 by Lisa Love. All Rights Reserved.

About Dr. Lisa Love

Check out my NEW BOOK: SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad Buy the book and receive bonus gifts at my website.

Best-selling author of BEYOND THE SECRET: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction. She is also a Life, Relationship, Law of Attraction, and Tranformational coach. There’s a reason my clients tell me by working with me they get major breakthroughs fast! Decades of coaching and counseling experience combined with my extensive training and work with clients from all backgrounds help my clients make shifts in a rapid way. Contact me to discover what I can do for you.

FREE GIFTS ON MY WEBSITE: Go to: http://www.doctorlisalove.com/freegifts.html


Don’t Let Fear Diminish Your Opportunities for Success

May 5, 2009

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Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall. — Confucious

DR. LISA LOVE REFLECTIONS

Like any time in your life this can be a courageous time or a fearful time, especially if you are facing challenges that seem difficult to you. But, did you know your fear doesn’t have to stop you?

You can learn tools that help get the gift out of your fear so that you can move forward and make the changes you need to.

Look, I understand what it is like to experience really tough times in life. And, as my clients understand I have a favorite saying, “No pressure, no diamonds.” In fact, when times were extremely tough for me I used to joke to myself that I must be shining really bright right now and becoming an an extremely valuable person, because the pressure I was going through was enormous.

In my book SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad I discuss in detail the events that happened to me over a period of years that nearly broke me psychologically in a multitude of pieces. Fortunately, I had by then gone through considerable training in both psychological and spiritual methods that helped me cope. I couldn’t help but think, “If I am having a tough time coping what must it be like for other people?” That question motivated me to do some deep thinking and from that crucible of thought I was fortunately able to come up with some answers and techniques that helped me cope and get stronger as never before in my life. These techniques deepened my spiritual practice, expanded my capacity to have love and compassion for myself and others, and best of all put me into an amazing real life training program where I was forced to master my thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in ways I had never had to do to quite this extent before.

So, here is the good news for you! No matter what you are facing at this point in your life, I want you to succeed. I want you to make it through. I want you to learn how to work with fear in the best way possible. I want your fear to serve you, not immobilize you! I want you to learn how to turn your anxiety into action as quickly as possible. Because that is what your fear is ultimately asking you to do. It is asking you to become aware of what you need to do right away so you can rapidly move into the direction you need to, especially in a way that acts in your best interests.

At least that is part of what I learned in my own increased mastery over the emotion of fear. Mastery that I teach you how to achieve, and master over fear you should know iis only one chapter in my newest book SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad. A book that will teach you how to master four levels of mind and six different emotions, of which fear is only one. And, for every emotion I talk about I show you how to shift that emotion along nine different levels so you can move it from unhealthy, to average, to healthy expression. Plus, so much more! Just read about the book below, by clicking on the link in this Email. There you will also discover many other bonus gifts that await you including the Meditation Flow music CD from the group Sancorpe, discount coupons for my workshops and services, my free Meditation: The Path to Peace ebook, and upgrades to future editions of my SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad book.

Why am I doing this? Because I know I can help you through any tough time you are facing. So, order my book right now. I look forward to serving you.

Blessings,

Dr. Lisa Love

Dr. Lisa Love Website

Copyright © 2009 by Lisa Love. All Rights Reserved.

About Dr. Lisa Love

Check out my NEW BOOK: SOUL SUCCESS: How to Create Joy & Prosperity in Good Times or Bad Buy the book and receive bonus gifts at my website.

Best-selling author of BEYOND THE SECRET: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction. She is also a Life, Relationship, Law of Attraction, and Tranformational coach. There’s a reason my clients tell me by working with me they get major breakthroughs fast! Decades of coaching and counseling experience combined with my extensive training and work with clients from all backgrounds help my clients make shifts in a rapid way. Contact me to discover what I can do for you.

FREE GIFTS ON MY WEBSITE: Go to: http://www.doctorlisalove.com/freegifts.html


How Real Love Can Save Our Economy

May 4, 2009

Take away love, and our earth is a tomb. –Robert Browning

DR. LISA LOVE REFLECTIONS
 
Imagine a world where what we want most of all is the good for each other!  Imagine a world where the measure of success is no longer based on how good you look, how much stuff you have, how rich you are, or how famous you have become.  But, a world where the measure of success is based upon how well you love others, how much time you spend really seeing and appreciating the world around you, how much wisdom you gain, and how often you treat everything and everyone with care (instead of being care – less).  I have imagined such a world.  And, though I often am an incomplete and imperfect picture of the what I call the “soul success game,” I would much prefer to strive, sometimes fail, yet strive again after this kind of “soul-opoly.” 
 
So, how can striving to be a “soul success” through the power of real love save our economy?  To begin with people may learn that instead of living in bigger and bigger homes with increasingly empty rooms, it is better to build and live within a “lighted” house.  What is a “lighted house?”  Basically, it is a home where every room is filled with light and life.  Each room is utilized as well as all the items within the room itself.  And, as people frequent the rooms they fill the rooms with their curiosity, wonder, love, and joy.  There is no sense of stagnation.  No feeling of emptiness.  Just life, vitality, and an opportunity to appreciate more what comes in and out of the four walls and space within. 
 
Just this, and this alone, will begin to shift the focus away from excess, waste, and neglect to a sense of depth.  Why?  Because depth comes about when we actually use the stuff we own and treat it well.  We fully absorb and relate to whatever we acquire or with the people we meet.  In short, we become intimate!  We connect.  We learn to understand each other.  And, in this way we are able to love each other a little more.  Not through wanting more and more for ourselves.  But, by wanting what is really good for the people and items we come into contact with and care about.
 
And, how does this help the economy further?  Maybe in doing this we will revisit the notion of sharing.  For example, the empty rooms of our homes might more readily be shared with others who need a place to stay.  The unused goods that we have hoarded and neglected might be circulated so that those who could appreciate them and benefit from them will have access to them.  Recycling won’t be seen as just turning in your bottles and cans so they can be used again.  It will be seen as learning to love, by fully appreciating and using, all that we have so that it is “loved up” (versus used up).  It is fully taken in and digested so that all the nutrients that are available in whatever we acquire, or through whomever we come in contact with, are assimilated so they nourish our hearts, minds, emotions, and bodies. 
 
No longer waste-full, we will become soul-full.  We will care.  We will love.  And, in doing so our hearts will open and be filled with real love.  And, as the power of love overtakes the love of power our streets will be filled with love and light.  Our homes will be peaceful and safe havens.  Our minds and emotions will be free of fear.  Best of all, our children will grow up nourished and cared for in a world filled with love, light, and spiritual power.  I can hardly wait for such a world to be born. 
  
Blessings,

Dr. Lisa Love

Dr. Lisa Love Website is found at http://www.doctorlisalove.com

Copyright © 2009 by Lisa Love. All Rights Reserved.

About Dr. Lisa Love

Best-selling author of BEYOND THE SECRET: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction. She is also a Life, Relationship, Law of Attraction, and Tranformational coach. There’s a reason my clients tell me by working with me they get major breakthroughs fast! Decades of coaching and counseling experience combined with my extensive training and work with clients from all backgrounds help my clients make shifts in a rapid way. Contact me to discover what I can do for you.

FREE GIFTS ON MY WEBSITE: Go to: http://www.doctorlisalove.com/freegifts.html