As a professional counselor for years I would tell people they needed to learn to love themselves. But, beyond a platitude, how do you actually do that? Ironically, one of the ways I discovered how to love yourself, was to consider all the ways people (especially women) were not loving themselves. And, the more I thought about that, the more I realized that one of the main reasons women were not loving themselves was because of what they were being taught about love (almost all false) especially from movies. Starting way back as young as when women are girls, they are being taught a variety of false notions about love. These notions include:
Putting yourself last and your man first.
Waiting to live your life until a man comes and finds you.
Tolerating beastly behaviors.
Playing dumb and refusing to see the shadow side of life.
Misunderstanding how men learn to love and then confusing sex with love.
Settling for half a relationship instead of a whole one.
Much, much more!
Ultimately, these false notions were changed into their opposites creating a blueprint for how women (and men) could take back their power, love themselves, and learn to really love each other in the process. Some of those opposites include:
Putting yourself and your dreams first in a healthy way.
Getting conscious about what you really want and finding healthy ways to pursue it.
Teaching others to treat you well because you know what good treatment looks like and feels like.
Knowing how to deal with the light and shadow in an effective way.
Discovering how to get a man to really love you.
Bringing together love and sex in a playful and healthy way.
Learning how to be whole so you can have a whole and truly loving relationship.
Settling for half a relationship instead of a whole one.
Is a man really loving you for you, or are you really loving yourself if you turn into a change project to become someone you are not? That is what Princess Ariel does, also known as the Little Mermaid. And, is trying to please a man by morphing into someone else she is just one more example of HOW NOT TO LOVE YOURSELF, the name of the new book by Dr. Lisa Love. Are you acting in a naïve way like Snow White? If so, learn how to stop. The book is also available as a combined text, audio, video course at DailyOM.com under the title TAKE BACK YOUR POWER AND LOVE YOURSELF
Ignoring the shadow side of life including in the people around you can lead you into trouble the way it did for Snow White, a woman who is an example of HOW NOT TO LOVE YOURSELF, the name of the new book by Dr. Lisa Love. Are you acting in a naïve way like Snow White? If so, learn how to stop. The book is also available as a combined text, audio, video course at DailyOM.com under the title TAKE BACK YOUR POWER AND LOVE YOURSELF
Are you messing up your chances for love the way Princess Aurora the Sleeping Beauty did by sleep walking through life and pretending problems don’t exist? If so you are learning HOW NOT TO LOVE YOURSELF, the name of the new book by Dr. Lisa Love. Also available as a combined text, audio, video course at DailyOM.com under the title TAKE BACK YOUR POWER AND LOVE YOURSELF
Are you messing up your chances for love the way Princess Cinderella did by putting yourself last in your quest for a prince? If so you are learning HOW NOT TO LOVE YOURSELF, the name of the new book by Dr. Lisa Love. Also available as a combined text, audio, video course at DailyOM.com under the title TAKE BACK YOUR POWER AND LOVE YOURSELF